People with cancer often have weight loss and it can be upsetting because it is a reminder of your illness. It is natural to be upset by weight loss. We all have an image in our minds about what our bodies look like. Although we may not be completely satisfied with this image, most people are used to the way they see themselves.

When you lose weight, perhaps due to the cancer itself or maybe the treatment you are having, you will see a different image of yourself when you look in the mirror from the one you have developed in your mind. It can be hard for someone who has seen themselves as well-built and healthy, to accept that they now look different because they have lost weight.

You may also worry that the change in your looks will affect what your partner, family and friends think of you. Weight loss can also be worrying for your friends and family. However, despite your loss of weight, you are still the same person with the characteristics for which your family and friends value you.

Some people worry that the change in their looks will affect their personal relationships. You may be worried about rejection or carrying on a sexual relationship. Many people find, once they have summoned up the courage to talk openly to their partner, their fears of rejection are unfounded. Relationships are built on a number of things – love, trust, common experiences and many other feelings. Although weight loss can be upsetting for you both, it can help to discuss this openly and talking about the problem may help you feel closer.